retaining the youth in the chuch

8 Guaranteed Ways Of Retaining The Youths In The Church

2 Timothy 4:2 Judges 2:8-15

Retaining the youth in the church is one major concern of every church leader. It has become an old fashion to see young people staying in their parent’s churches. And the major cause for this is the parents and their children are not operating on the same page both on doctrinal and social issues. While the former like to stick to the old ways of doing a thing, the latter belief you can change the methods without changing the message. So, in my personal experience, I figure out the following ways to arrest this ugly trend.

  1. Failure to correct heresy: Bad news spread quicker than the good news. In the same way, it is easier to destroy than to repair. Heretical teaching may appear harmless on the surface but its destructive impact is better imagined than experienced. And one thing about false teaching is its ability to be in tandem with the youths.
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christians who makes God sick

Christian Who Makes God Sick

Perhaps the danger of Christianity today is the high number of Christian who makes God sick. Did I hear you say blasphemy? Don’t crucify me yet until you read this.

“To the angel of the church in Laodicea write: These are the words of the Amen, the faithful and true witness, the ruler of God’s creation. I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm neither hot nor cold I am about to spit you out of my mouth Revelation. 3:14-16(NIV). By experience, vomiting is one sign of sickness. So when I say Christian who make God sick, I mean believers who irritate and piss off God.

These sets of Christians are neither here nor there. Acts 20:9. You’ll see spiritually such Christians are sitting on the fence.  They have charisma without character. Having a form of godliness but denying its power. Read more »

other side of dino melaye ordeal

The Other Side Of Dino Melaye’s Ordeal You Can’t Find In The Media

I am not a politician, and I won’t become one. Yet I haven’t condemned any politician. In fact, I encourage Christians to join politics if they are convinced to do so. For sometimes, Dino Melaye has made the news headlines for various reasons, but there is the other side of Dino Melaye’s ordeal you can’t find in the media. Before I moved on I am neither an APC nor PDP member. So, my write up about the other side of Dino Melaye’s ordeal has no political undertone. Besides that, I am not celebrating the Kogi politician or applauding the police or security agents’ activities on him. But, unusually, the Holy Spirit gives me inspiration about issue writes on. So I will share these few lessons you can learn from the recent police siege on Dino Melaye’s residence and his eventual surrender. Join me as the Holy Spirit teaches us about God, our frailty and futility of life. Read more »

Life As A Relay, We Win or Lose Together

 

By God’s design, He made our lives as a loop of rings to form a chain. A disconnection means we’re no longer a chain we are. Similarly, life is like a relay race, every member of the team has a stake. So life as a relay, we win or lose together. As the role, the person that kick-start the race is important so is the person who finishes the race. And in-between are athletes who transit the baton to one another. But if any member of the team slacks in his role because he doesn’t take the baton for the last lap of the race then the team will lose the race altogether.

One reason for competition in life is our view of life as a hundred-meter dash. Most times we believed the world revolves around us. To us, it is us or no one else. Our service to God, brethren, and nation wanes because we do not want to play the second fiddle. Read more »

adult leadership transition

Adult-Youth Leadership Transition: Lessons From Joshua’s Lost Generation

It is an undeniable fact that today adult was once a youth, just as today adult with time will naturally give way for today’s youth.

Here the pertinent question is how to guarantee an adult-youth leadership transition that will preserve our cherished legacy. This is because this leadership transition cuts across every sphere of life’s endeavor. It is the same whether in religious, business, political, sport or administrative circle.

A break in the adult-youth leadership transition will not only jettison the legacy and goodwill of the progenitors but also, dash the hope of the upcoming generation.

Now, how do we ensure a seamless adult-youth leadership transition that will guarantee the continuation of our cherished family, church and national values! A look around at every sphere of life show a distortion of these basic values once celebrated politically, religiously, and as a family.

Since life generally is not a hundred meter dash, but a marathon relay. Read more »

getting along with your parents

Getting Along With Your Parents: Strategies That Works

Getting Along With Your Parents: Strategies That Works

Colossians 3:20-21; Ephesians 6:1-4

As a teenager or a youth, getting along with your parents may be a herculean task. Don’t worry I was once there before. I know it sounds a traumatic experience for young people and their parents to have a seamless relationship. More often than not parents and their kids do not run on the same page. As the world advances the parents and child’s relationship become tensed. Hence, it creates a gulf between parents and their wards. So, youth and parents conflict resolution becomes harder.

With no doubt, the best parents are not immune to this dilemma of getting along with their wards. Sometimes with the best intention from both ends, there appears to be no easy way out in sight. Many times young people wonder how do I get along with my parents? They reasoned why they are always on the cross with their parent. Read more »

who wins when we forgive

Who Wins When We Forgive

 

 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13

 It is a privilege to forgive and to be forgiven. Yet, most of us including me will jump at receiving forgiveness rather than forgiven others.

 But who wins when we forgive: The one who wins when we forgive depends on our understanding of the concept of what forgiveness is not and what is forgiveness. Forgiveness means releasing the offender of his offense unconditionally without demanding compensation, Matthew. 18: 21–27.

Unresolved conflict is not unconnected with our failure to forgive. The simple reason is our interest is on who wins when we forgive than resolving our differences. It is inherent in the human being to win all the time including winning every argument over the other person. But, when we are defeated we feel sad about it because we couldn’t take our pound of flesh. Read more »

sins of silence

Avoid These Top 3 Sins of Silence Now, or You’ll Hate Yourself Later.

 

Silence is good. Do not break it if you cannot improve it. As good as that statement may be there is a time when our silence compound issues rather than preventing conflict. Sometimes we keep silent because we don’t want to rock the boat of our relationship with people. At such a time, we may commit what I called 3 sins of silence. Usually, everybody wants others to see them as preserving the unity of the fellowship and community. But, it will do more damage when no one is ready to speak up when an error is committed. Whenever we fail to confront evil and error, we would end up committing one of the three sins of silence. The best way to deal with cancer is to remove it.

In fact, I am writing this post because of my recent experience with one of my female group leader. Well, I am from a male-dominated society in the community, nation, and church. Read more »

truth about eternal security

The truth about eternal security: what Armenian and Calvinist are missing

 

The doctrine of eternal security and pre-destination are two Biblical doctrines that divide the church more than any other thing. In an attempt to present the truth about eternal security Christians are divided along Calvinism and Arminianism.

The discord arises for two reasons. One, the conservative adherents not ready to accept the opposing view different from theirs. They concluded this without given the other party fair hearing. Two, those who exploit the weakness of these teaching to support their lackadaisical and sinful way of life to the detriment of the unsuspecting believers and new converts.

Mind you, both Calvin and Arminius are the contemporary of Martin Luther. They all emerge during the great reformation. Both had a good intention of what today had become a dividing factor among Christians.

What do these two great minds teach? Calvinism is named after John Calvin, a French theologian (1509-1564). Arminianism is based on the Biblical interpretation taught by Jacobus Arminius, a Dutch theologian who lived between (1560-1609). Read more »