handling a breakup

16 Healthy Ways Of Handling A Break Up

The devastating effect of any breakup is better imagined than experienced. Handling a breakup requires enormous self-motivated and resilient capacity, whether the relationship is short or long. This is because every breakup leaves you heartbroken, dejected, and confused. Then it reverses you to a fresh start with physical, mental and emotional stress as you ask where is God?

While there is no single solution to handling a break-up. Your healthy coping capability to get over that shock will not only bring you back on track. But, will make you strong to face other future challenges in the other sphere of life.

I have put together though not an exhaustive list of practical tips for handling a breakup and get back your life.

  1. God is good and so also you: Irrespective of who initiated the breakup or the reason God is good so you are. Instead of asking where is God when I hurt, remember who God has been to you in the past and what he has done for you before now.
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8 Must Know Preventable Reasons Why Marriages Fail

Naturally, no one set out to fail in marriage. But, the rate of divorce and marriage failure is on the increase. Thus, the question of reasons marriages fail calls for concern. More importantly, no marriage is insulated from this scourge and Christian marriage is not an exempted. This post on reasons why marriages fail will not only help young people advert this ugly trend of divorce. But, help marriages in dilemma X-ray their relationship to fix the missing link before their marriage finally hit the rock. Let us look at some factors that aided failed marriages

1. Starting on a wrong footing: One major reason marriages fail is a faulty foundation. Many people who went into marriage are ignorant of the dynamics of marriage. When you base your marital union on wrong societal values, parental and peer pressure, deception, financial benefit, cultural bias, and selfish interest then you are standing on a faulty foundation. Read more »

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Faulty Marriage Foundation: The Genesis Of Failed Marriages.

Faulty Marriage Foundation: The Genesis Of Failed Marriages.

When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?” Psalms 11:3
It is the foundation of any building that determines its ability to withstand adverse weather. In the same vein, the foundation of marriage determines the durability or otherwise of such a relationship. Thus, if the foundation is faulty, then the collapse of the building is imminent. Though you may patch up along the line, the inevitable will still happen. A faulty foundation is a cause for the collapse of most marriages.
1. Impure relationship: Premarital sex and cohabitation are two aspects of an impure relationship that marred the foundation of a marriage. Premarital sex is unmarried people enjoy carnal gratification meant for married people. As a result, they set their marriage on a faulty foundation.
The second aspect is cohabitation. This is when two people not married lived and enjoyed a sexual relationship. Read more »

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12 Warning Signs You’re Dating A Toddler

One of the most complicated relationships is marriage. This is because it takes a high level of responsibility and maturity to keep a marriage.  Since maturity is germane to a happy marriage dating a toddler is starting on a wrong footing. By comparison, getting married is not as important as keeping it. Ironically, age and financial, an academic status may not guarantee a lasting marital relationship. This is because maturity means different thing to different people. As you know marriage is not for boys or toddlers. It is for the matured by all standards. 

Getting it right before you walk down the aisle for the marital vow is important. So, while you’re dating or courting you must find out you are not dating a toddler. Therefore, I will show you 12 signs you are dating a toddler. This becomes necessary as dating a toddler now will pitch you on the wrong side of marital bliss. Read more »

what not to do when marriage delays

What Not To Do When Marriage Delays

 1 Samuel 13:8-10,Psalm 13:1, Romans 8:28, Hebrews 11:6, Habakkuk2:3, Ezekiel 12:28

Human beings are social beings. Therefore, one major area of sociality is marriage. But if marriage delays reactions and counter-reactions follow. At such times spontaneous negative behavior is exhibited. So what are the don’ts when marriage delays?

Unfortunately, negative reaction rather than improve the situation compound it the more. I agreed it is natural for people at this level to assume the world is falling round about them. When marriage delays feeling of loneliness and a sense of being an outcast among one’s peers heightens. At that stage, the voice of reasoning, especially from the married, is misunderstood.  They’ll see them as not being emphatic enough with their plight. They interpret the encouraging words of people in the same shoe with them as that of a drowned man seeking a companion. What are these don’ts when marriage delays that the concerned people must know? Read more »