handling a breakup

16 Healthy Ways Of Handling A Break Up

The devastating effect of any breakup is better imagined than experienced. Handling a breakup requires enormous self-motivated and resilient capacity, whether the relationship is short or long. This is because every breakup leaves you heartbroken, dejected, and confused. Then it reverses you to a fresh start with physical, mental and emotional stress as you ask where is God?

While there is no single solution to handling a break-up. Your healthy coping capability to get over that shock will not only bring you back on track. But, will make you strong to face other future challenges in the other sphere of life.

I have put together though not an exhaustive list of practical tips for handling a breakup and get back your life.

  1. God is good and so also you: Irrespective of who initiated the breakup or the reason God is good so you are. Instead of asking where is God when I hurt, remember who God has been to you in the past and what he has done for you before now.
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Getting Along With Your Parents: Strategies That Works

Getting Along With Your Parents: Strategies That Works

Colossians 3:20-21; Ephesians 6:1-4

As a teenager or a youth, getting along with your parents may be a herculean task. Don’t worry I was once there before. I know it sounds a traumatic experience for young people and their parents to have a seamless relationship. More often than not parents and their kids do not run on the same page. As the world advances the parents and child’s relationship become tensed. Hence, it creates a gulf between parents and their wards. So, youth and parents conflict resolution becomes harder.

With no doubt, the best parents are not immune to this dilemma of getting along with their wards. Sometimes with the best intention from both ends, there appears to be no easy way out in sight. Many times young people wonder how do I get along with my parents? They reasoned why they are always on the cross with their parent. Read more »

what forgiveness doesn't mean

Your Relationship Sucks? Check What Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean

Every one of us jumped at receiving forgiveness quicker than given it. Most time our relationship becomes strenuous and acidic because we are unable to come to term with what forgiveness is not. We would have a robust relationship if only we understand what forgiveness doesn’t mean and who wins when we forgive.
God commands forgiveness. In fact, we win when we forgive. Understanding what forgiveness doesn’t mean will not only guide us against abusing the right of others but also engender a robust and healthy relationship.
Here I have a few of these things that are not forgiveness.
1. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you are a fool. Naturally, we feel cheated when people deny us our rights. At that time, we are tempted to pay them in their own coin. But as a child of God, you bear it not because you are a fool. God repeatedly had compassion on the people of Israelite but when they abused it he punished them. Read more »

who wins when we forgive

Who Wins When We Forgive

 

 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13

 It is a privilege to forgive and to be forgiven. Yet, most of us including me will jump at receiving forgiveness rather than forgiven others.

 But who wins when we forgive: The one who wins when we forgive depends on our understanding of the concept of what forgiveness is not and what is forgiveness. Forgiveness means releasing the offender of his offense unconditionally without demanding compensation, Matthew. 18: 21–27.

Unresolved conflict is not unconnected with our failure to forgive. The simple reason is our interest is on who wins when we forgive than resolving our differences. It is inherent in the human being to win all the time including winning every argument over the other person. But, when we are defeated we feel sad about it because we couldn’t take our pound of flesh. Read more »

faulty marriage foundation

Faulty Marriage Foundation: The Genesis Of Failed Marriages.

Faulty Marriage Foundation: The Genesis Of Failed Marriages.

When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?” Psalms 11:3
It is the foundation of any building that determines its ability to withstand adverse weather. In the same vein, the foundation of marriage determines the durability or otherwise of such a relationship. Thus, if the foundation is faulty, then the collapse of the building is imminent. Though you may patch up along the line, the inevitable will still happen. A faulty foundation is a cause for the collapse of most marriages.
1. Impure relationship: Premarital sex and cohabitation are two aspects of an impure relationship that marred the foundation of a marriage. Premarital sex is unmarried people enjoy carnal gratification meant for married people. As a result, they set their marriage on a faulty foundation.
The second aspect is cohabitation. This is when two people not married lived and enjoyed a sexual relationship. Read more »

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12 Warning Signs You’re Dating A Toddler

One of the most complicated relationships is marriage. This is because it takes a high level of responsibility and maturity to keep a marriage.  Since maturity is germane to a happy marriage dating a toddler is starting on a wrong footing. By comparison, getting married is not as important as keeping it. Ironically, age and financial, an academic status may not guarantee a lasting marital relationship. This is because maturity means different thing to different people. As you know marriage is not for boys or toddlers. It is for the matured by all standards. 

Getting it right before you walk down the aisle for the marital vow is important. So, while you’re dating or courting you must find out you are not dating a toddler. Therefore, I will show you 12 signs you are dating a toddler. This becomes necessary as dating a toddler now will pitch you on the wrong side of marital bliss. Read more »

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Godly Marriage Principles Every Youth Should Know

Godly Marriage Principles Every Youth Should Know.

Today there are several alternatives to Godly marriage principles. It is therefore not surprising why the rate of divorce is on the increase. Many people, including Christians, are enduring their marriage instead of enjoying them. Most held onto their marriage vows because of their status in the church and society. Though this group appears to be together outside at home, they are miles apartContinue reading